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Maintain Relationships and Avoid the Drama


By Melody Gluth

Every relationship you have has a major impact on your life. They affect your time, space, energy, and almost every aspect of your life. These relationships can be with coworkers, family, friends, and significant others.

Relationships can be easy to maintain, or they can be difficult, especially when drama is introduced. Drama refers to unnecessary or manufactured conflict. Many people experience drama in all kinds of settings with different people. Sometimes others start the drama, but sometimes we might inadvertently start it. Either way, drama can have a significant impact on an otherwise healthy relationship.

Unfortunately, many of us are not taught how to navigate and maximize our connection with others. Maintaining healthy relationships with the people in our lives and avoiding drama can lead to a happier, more fulfilled existence.

Relationships are mutually beneficial, meaning that both people are supporting one another in realizing their potential. There is a balance that should be achieved, but that balance can be offset by negative events, such as drama. Eliminating drama is key to sustaining positive relations with those around you.

One easy way to avoid drama is to stay out of other peoples’ drama. Be compassionate, but keep your distance and let them have their drama. Resist the urge to jump in and join the chaos. Listen for a short duration, but leave when it becomes too much. Take care of yourself first. More likely than not, you cannot fix their problems.

Do not gossip. Ever. It may be hard not for some, but gossiping can lead to unnecessary drama. Try to always speak highly of others and only say positive things. Also, try to be straightforward in your communication. If others misinterpret what you say, it could lead to a hullabaloo. Be clear and avoid any needless confusion.

If you know people who are always dealing with the melancholy of a dramatic life, it may be time to reconsider your relationship with them. We all know someone like this, and being around them can be exhausting and stressful. If being around them leaves you feeling drained, start spending less time with them. You do not have to completely sever the relationship; simply minimize the time you spend with them. When the conversation starts to take a dramatic turn, take control and steer it towards a happier, more positive topic.

It is also important to recognize when you might be creating the drama. If you are constantly facing drama in multiple areas of your life, it may be time to be honest with yourself. You could be the cause of the all the drama. Identify what it is that attracts drama. Could it be that you are inadvertently creating commotion when looking for attention or excitement? Try to identify the cause and look for an alternative solution. There may be a better way to get attention directly or a more exciting adventure that awaits you.

Learn from past drama and continue to grow. If you went through a period of a lot of drama, try to extract any potential meaning or lesson. It allows us an opportunity to discover how to better deal with any conflict we might face in the future.

As you continue to grow, keep in mind that all relationships are about personal development. It is much easier to practice compassion without getting into other peoples’ drama if you remember that relationships are mutually beneficial.

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